- A woman pregnant with twins was shocked after her husband planned a last-minute trip in her third trimester
- Just 24 hours after he left, she ended up in the hospital “alone”
- She revealed on Reddit that her husband has not apologized, and she’s unsure if she can “get past the resentment” that she is feeling
A pregnant woman urged her husband not to travel while she was in her third trimester, but he did anyway — and she ended up in the hospital all alone.
On Reddit, the 37-year-old woman explained that she has been with her 39-year-old husband for “almost 18 years.” After years of fertility struggles, she is now pregnant with twins.
“I’m not yet over what I went through physically and mentally to get here,” she candidly wrote in a post.
Despite tensions with some of her partner’s family, he “decided mid-November that he suddenly needed to visit his siblings across the country.”
“While I wasn’t thrilled at the idea, to avoid his resentment, I said okay, but it needs to be right away,” she wrote. “He initially proposed mid-December and I said that’s too late in my pregnancy.”
Right after the conversation, the poster “started to have complications — major swelling and gestational hypertension.” She was put on medication to “control the hypertension,” but nothing seemed to work.
Regardless of her health issues, her husband went through with his travel plans.
“My husband booked his flight (for mid-December) only AFTER I was diagnosed with gestational hypertension. Had it been before, maybe I wouldn’t feel so much resentment,” she wrote.
Then, just 24 hours after he left, the woman “had to go to the hospital at midnight due to high blood pressure – 180/110 when I arrived at the hospital.”
“I was finally diagnosed with preeclampsia. I spent several hours alone overnight at the hospital in the labour ward and was prescribed more meds,” she wrote. “Both babies had normal heart beats and I was sent home eventually.”
The woman explained that she has “been super depressed and anxious” to go through the health scare “alone.” Still, her husband “hasn’t apologized” for putting his travel desires first.
She noted that, if he really wanted to see his brother and sister, he could have just flown them out.
While most of her family “think it was inconsiderate of him to travel during this time,” others argued that he never could have predicted she would end up in the hospital while he was away.
So, she turned to Reddit for an outside perspective, noting that she’s unsure how to “get past the resentment I’m feeling.”
“Your husband is a jacka– and so are the people who said ‘how was he to know…..,'” one user wrote. “Let’s review. 1) third trimester – anything can happen 2) your age = high risk 3) gestational hypertension = added risk.”
“Normal dad-to-be: Gee, I miss my siblings and would really like to visit them, but my wife is in her third trimester of an at-risk pregnancy with twins, so I can’t go. Maybe we can Skype or Zoom or something,” another added.
“You’re right to be upset. You experienced the very thing that HE should have been worried about!” they continued. “Please tell me he canceled the rest of the trip and caught the first flight home. He owes you a huge apology. Is he often this selfish and self-absorbed?”